I realized I have four tenets that are important in my own life, and that I want in the people with which I'm in relationship.

1a. Spiritual path -- I'm very open as to what this is

tied with:

1b. Queer identity -- The real stuff: experience with queer love as an adult, plus an understanding of feminism, and queer feminist identity.

Next:

3. Polyamory-aware -- I want to be with people who at least grasp the concept of polyamory. In reality, I don't date heavily, and I rarely date more than one person at a time. Still, this concept is important to me. I have a rare friend or two that would be a sweetie if they lived local, and if/when they come to town again, I want the ability to negotiate with any partner / date I have, to be able to see those friends with my sweetie's permission!

4. Kindness, and availability, emotional and physical. This fourth tenet is a given for all situations, and I think should be a pre-requisite for future relationships.

All that said, I've been contemplating what counts, for each of these categories.

I'm realizing that spirituality is a nuanced thing, not black-and-white, but also not just gradient or technicolor.

Poetry can be an expression of spirituality, of inner god-spark, as one friend calls it.

Here's to each of us finding our god-spark.